since got linked to 12House.com
getting somewhere, recommend this site for aspects and houses, heaps easy to nav..

Interesting. I'm not really sure what kind of advise you looking for but part of this post relates closley to me.

"In fact I havent had any 'urges' until recently became extremely passionate with someone on the other side of the world.. thank god it was impossible for that to be physical...."

Are you saying that you do not want to be physical? Or that you love this person so deeply that the physical aspect of the relationship is not that important? To that I can relate. I think that love does not nescessarily mean sex but maybe that is becuase my Venus and Mars are in two very "detached" signs. Mars being in Aquaris making sex not all the importnant to me. And Venus in Pisces making love, passion, and romance the center of my world.

You, however, have Mars in Leo so I would assume that the physical aspect of a relationship is important to you? Especially when the planet traditionally associated with sex is conjunct your sun making it actually part of your identity. Your Venus is in Libra much the same as pisces, prefers romance but on an even more intellectual level. Maybe even superficial, prefering acts of love through buying gifts. The Venus Jupiter conjunction only amplifyes this. I also have a Venus Jupiter aspect so I can relater.

"Intensity of passion and desire...a blessing when its beyond obsession..a very fine line..one I fear actually..
...to the point that Ive abstained from romance and denied my instincts thru fear of going from heaven to hell."

When your passione runs deep and is not satisyed first you will feel hell. Try to put your mind on something else. That will help ease the pain.