I also have Venus in Virgo, but square Mars in 28 Libra so right on my Scorpio Ascendent. My Mars has never played out in a Libra way, it's always full blown Scorpio for whatever reason. I'm passionate but only in extremes, meaning I am completely and undeniably attracted or there is no attraction whatsoever and the mere idea of sex disgusts me. Any kind of Libra romanticism isn't going to change that for me at all. It's there or it isn't. Venus in Virgo for me has translated into I need to be shown affection in practical ways and I have no use at all for flirting or flattery. As a matter of fact, I will instantly distrust anyone who goes down that path with me because I see them as shallow and insincere. The Venus in Virgo probably also contributes to the all or nothing thing in me because I will examine the other person for compatibility without any regard to emotion and if there is any incompatibility, it's over. My criteria is always crystal clear in my head and totally inflexible. So I would say that's how my Mars and Venus has played out. I don't become obsessive about my interests because I feel they will either work out or not and if not, I don't want them anyway. If anything, it takes me years to come to any "love" feeling for a person.

Here's another interesting thing. My Venus in Virgo is in the 11th house and the only way I ever met men was through friends. Any man who approached me directly would find himself facing my back as I turned and walked away. I have no idea why I did that, but I did. I met my soul mate through a previous boyfriend and we had an entire group of friends in common. That was immediately hot and steamy and we couldn't live apart from almost the time we met, although we can do things separately without getting insecure about that. I have to say that I think our moons and the Pluto effect have a huge impact on that relationship as well as Saturn. We click on a lot of levels. I don't think the Venus and Mars effect would be the only one or even the strongest.

Now oddly, my Mars is in his 7th house Libra and his is in my 7th House Taurus. That's supposed to cause power stuggles and ego issues, but it hasn't at all. I think that's mainly because we care about completely different things so what we want to control isn't in conflict with what the other person wants to control. He has to control every single detail of the house and I could care less where I live or what's in it. The fact that he brings order to it and takes care of it is very calming to me. That's his Saturn effect on me. It's the same effect that drives so many others crazy because they feel treated like a child. If I cared about the house, that would be an issue. I'm obsessively controlling about my writing and have to have silence and space. He's an Aquarian and 12th house sun so no issues there because he needs his space and he's internalized as well (I'm also 12 house Sun in an air sign).

So I think you have to look at many things to figure that out. Your Venus square Mars could indicate this, but may not. I only had one passionately charged, stormy relationship and that was as a teenager. It wasn't short lived. It lasted five years. It wasn't turbulent and stormy emotions, it was egos clashing and constant, overwhelming sexual tension. I haven't had any short lived relationships.

Scasco, I wonder if your trust-issues regarding women could also be a lot about that Pluto-Moon conjunction of yours? The Moon is the ultimate feminie principle, and Pluto is, well... the Devil in disguise.